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As we go through life we are often delayed or blocked from our life path because we put too much emphasis on other people’s opinions. 

When I first started my grief counseling page, I used to worry that people of certain religions wouldn’t like my message. They might send a negative comment or “unfollow” me or they might be insulted in some way, and that really bothered me.

Then I realized that they are not the people who should be on my page. The people who should be on my page are ONLY the ones who resonate with my messages and beliefs or who are at least willing to hear and learn from my posts.

Why was I so concerned about the others?

I think a lot of it is just human nature. Wouldn’t it be nice to have everyone love us, love our message, our clothing, our recommendations etc?

Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to help everyone in some way?

We must remember that there will always be people who won’t like us. The first step is to accept that.

We all have our “tribe” in life where we are accepted and where we fit in. We must focus on finding those people and take our focus off of the people who do not resonate with us. There is nothing wrong with this.

The second step is to build up confidence in yourself.

Start making small changes and be confident enough NOT to look for approval. You could change your hair or make-up or buy new clothing and just delight in how much YOU love the changes.

It truly doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, what matters is what you think and how you feel. Start feeling great about yourself every day!

The third way to stop caring what others think is to share your message/messages with people and connect with those who positively respond.

Do you have a message or a truth that means a lot to you that you have always wanted to share? Something helpful to others?

There will be negative reactions, but the more you share your truth, the less you will care about the negative. Just make sure your message is always positive and aims to help others in some way.

When I started my first grief counseling site, I started a series of emails which many people were signed up for. Once a month I would send an email newsletter.

Back in those days there wasn’t as much interaction on social media as there is today, and I never heard from anyone except those who were signed up for counseling. I eventually stopped sending that email thinking it wouldn’t really matter anyway.

Within a couple of weeks of my deleting the newsletter, I received 3 emails from people who were upset that I had ended the newsletter that they looked forward to.

At the time, I didn’t realize that my email was helping anyone, but it was.

If you have a message to put out there, and it is positive and aimed at helping others, you can be 100% sure that it IS helping someone. Even if it is helping one person, isn’t it worth it?

The fourth way to stop caring what others think is to take more risks in life.

Attend meet-up groups. Start an online group. Connect more with others. Do things you usually don’t do. Start a new hobby. Put yourself out there and speak of your life and what you love but also be interested in other people and their lives.

You will find that you are attracted to certain people and they are attracted to you.

As you make all of these new connections, your confidence will grow to higher levels and you will care less and less about people that may be negative to you.

Recap:

• Accept that not everyone will like you and be okay with that.

• Make small changes, and eventually bigger changes, and delight in them by yourself without seeking approval. If you get approval that’s a plus, but don’t ask. Just have confidence in your decision.

• Share whatever messages you’ve always wanted to share. Speak your truth as long as it is helpful and kind. Delight and connect with those who respond positively and practice not caring about negative responses.

• Take more risks! Do new things. Meet new people and find the people that you resonate with the most in life. Fill your life with people whom you can really connect with.

 

Now you’ll be on your way to a happier, more fulfilling life without worrying about what others think.

How great is that!!

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